“Me-lentine’s”
Mayte Inclán Guillén
February 23, 2025
For some people, Valentine’s Day—a holiday meant to celebrate relationships—can cause more anxiety than love.
The holiday can be stressful not only for couples who feel pressured to plan a romantic activity or dinner, but also for those in “situationships” who are uncertain about whether they’ll receive anything from their crush. Many people without partners dread the day, as it reminds them of their failure to live up to society’s expectation for romance. High schoolers are particularly subject to these social pressures, feeling as though they “must” have a date or someone to spend Valentine’s Day with.
This calls into question: where did Valentine’s Day originate? The name “Valentine” refers to a Roman priest in the 3rd century who married many couples in secret because, at the time, marriage was illegal. Because of his defiance of this ban, Valentine was sentenced to death by the Emperor, but before his execution on Feb. 14, he sent a letter to his forbidden lover, signed: “From your Valentine.”
Valentine’s tradition arose from a Roman festival, Lupercalia, which was traditionally celebrated in mid-February. The festival contained rituals that represented love and fertility, including the tradition of a boy picking the name of a girl from a basket. The couple would then go on a date and, if the two caught feelings they would start a relationship.
While Valentine’s Day possesses a sweet history, it has evolved into a less sentimental display of romance and love, and now, instead, manifests in materialistic gifts. All throughout February, hearts, pastries, flowers, jewelry, and cards fill the aisles of stores, producing considerable profit for many businesses.
In spite of its promotion of materialism, the holiday celebrates all types of relationships, whether with a partner, a friend, or oneself. Singles Awareness Day (SAD) celebrates one’s self, through embracing individuality and recognizing self-worth.
I know some of us feel the need to have someone to talk to and care about, as it gives us anxiety to think about being trapped in “singlehood” forever, but who decided being single was shameful? It gives you the opportunity to appreciate your own company, get to know yourself, and grow—perhaps even creating room for someone special to enter your life. But in the time being, enjoy the memories you make, whether they’re shared or experienced on your own.
Happy Me-lentine’s day!